The pros and cons of free Christian dating services

The appeal

There is a tremendous appeal about having something good without having to pay for it. When there are no downsides to this then we call it a blessing from God. However, some things in life that are free do not have the same long-term value that equivalent things that need paying for have. One of the advantages of paying for something is that you have worked hard to obtain it and you may then value it more for yourself. Things that are easily obtained can be easily ignored or thrown away.

How much do you value your search?

From this perspective it is good to look at the importance of your search for a marriage partner. How much do you value this search? Do you expect others to be as committed as you are? These are some of the questions you need to be asking as you decide what approach you are going to take in order to find a suitable marriage partner. The truth is that everyone you meet will be at different places in their lives: some will just be toying with the idea of meeting someone new, others will be firmly committed and actively seeking, and others will only be looking for friends. You will need to sift through these kinds of people to find the one who is in the same place you are.

Are you playing or are you committed?

We think it would be true to say that those joining a totally free Christian dating service and who are not also using a paid service will have made up their minds to limit their spending. You have to make up your mind about what this implies about how committed they are to a future relationship. Most paying dating services do not cost more for a month than a decent meal out. If this kind of expenditure is putting people off it may be that they are not prepared for the extra spending that accompanies a real relationship. There are certainly many Christians that are merely playing with an idea of dating and who may never get around to committing actively to it. You will certainly find more of them on a totally free Christian dating service.

Don't waste your time

So we would encourage you to use any means necessary in order to put yourself in the place to meet your future partner but be aware that by using any free Christian dating service you may not meet fully committed people through those means. Maximise your chances and don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Your time is a limited commodity!