Avoiding unrealistic dating expectations and massive disappointment.

Some of the advantages of Christian Internet dating can also be drawbacks.

One of the main advantages of Internet Christian dating is the ease by which anyone can create a profile and begin searching. With some sites (such as ChristiansUK.com) it’s possible to start searching within minutes of signing up to the service. The downside to this is that it is far too easy to rush through the creation of a profile, upload poor pictures, no pictures at all or even fail to fill in a profile at all.

One of the other drawbacks to Internet dating is that it is easy to hide behind a profile, claiming to be someone you’re not. Whilst this is also true when you are meeting people in the real world it is harder to hide the truth when you actually meet people. So, as single Christians (who by rights ought to be more honest) how can we avoid unrealistic and misleading expectations and avoid the inevitable disappointment that is the result?

How is your profile?

Firstly, we can start with looking at our own profiles. How can we expect others to be open and honest when we haven’t been? Is your profile accurate and up-to-date? Is your photo current? Do you even have a photo on your profile? Have you been honest about the work you do? You need to make sure that what you have said in your profile you will be happy to talk about on a date without fear of embarrassment. Ask your friends if they think your photo is an accurate representation of what you currently look like.

Treat all profiles with a pinch of salt.

When you start an email conversation with someone that you feel you may have something in common with try not to start fanaticising about what they may be like. If you are in regular conversation with someone that you have already decided you know despite having had only brief phone conversations with them and no direct meetings you are setting yourself up to be let down.

There are many aspects to people that are no conveyable through either the Internet or over the phone. These are such things as mannerisms, style, smell and body language. All these things may be critical for a successful relationship and if you have waited too long before you meet the person these things may be the things that let you down.

So what is the simple solution to avoid being disappointed? We recommend not spending too long before you meet anyone you contact online. Don’t spend hours and hours emailing to and fro. If you are getting on that well you should meet up and to delay serves no purpose.

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