Positive ways to approach dating

In a previous article we discussed how single Christians can be happy in their state of singleness. In this article we will go a little more in depth and look at ways to view the dating experience positively and how to avoid disappointment by so doing.

In order to best make use of Christian dating services and earth your Internet dating in the real world you will need to meet lots of single Christians on actual dates. How you respond to these dates will influence how successful you are in finding your future partner and how successful that relationship will be. The following are ways to view the dating experience so that you get the most from it.

Firstly, view the dating experience as an opportunity to get to know more about people.

It is a simple fact that you can’t get to know people without meeting people and attempting to get to know them. Single Christians can’t know what kind of people they might like with being sociable and actually mixing and mingling with other single Christians. Use you dates to get to know the kind of people that you like and the things that put you off people. Where necessary, update you profile with your discoveries and let others know your broad criteria.

Secondly, view the dating experience as an opportunity to find out about yourself.

As you continue to date different kinds of people you will find that you will respond in different ways to different kinds of people. Ask yourself as you begin surfing the profiles whether you are looking for the kinds of people that are really good for you. If you have had many unsuccessful relationships with different people ask yourself if these people had anything in common and whether you are being drawn to a particular kind of person for any reason. If you find a common denominator then try and avoid that kind of person in the future. Dating is a process of discovery and you can learn a lot about a person by careful examination of their profile and a few probing questions over dinner.

Thirdly, view the dating experience as an enjoyable time anyway.

Life is too short not to enjoy it! As Christians we have many demands on our time and we need to have outlets where we simply enjoy life and the company of other people. Dating can provide one of these opportunities. Dating should be fun and enjoyable, if it’s not then you are getting something wrong. Dating should not be treated like job hunting and is not the same as “speed-dating”. You can have a check-list in your mind when you are dating but it should not be prominent in your mind. A date that does not lead anywhere afterwards is not a “bad date” , after all you must have had a reasonably good time. Unless everything about it was bad, from the food to the venue then you had a good time and your life was enriched. If you treat your dating that way you will have a positive experience.

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