How and why should a single Christian go dating?

What other people say

Often we are asked why should someone use an online Christian dating service such ChristiansUK.com in order to find a suitable single Christian partner. It is also sometimes implied that single Christians should be concentrating on serving the Lord and not running around looking for marriage partners.

The World and the Church have issues with singleness

If the world were an easier place to live in and if people in the Church were more actively social and organised more parties and events it would be easier for single Christians to find their partners without making an extra effort. However, the truth is that there is an imbalance of single Christian females to single Christian males in the Church and the Church has (historically) concentrated on being a welcoming place for couples and families and less so on singles. If 40% of the Church is single then why isn’t 40% of the ministry directed this way? Go and ask your pastor this one!

The imbalance of males to females in the Church

This imbalance of females to males combined with a lack of social opportunities over a long period has led to a crisis within the Church of long-standing single Christians with little or no opportunity to meet new people unless they take pro-active action in going outside their own churches. This means one of two things, either they will be drawn back into the non-Christian world and the places that they go to find partners such as clubs and pubs or they will have to visit other churches. Some Christians would be uncomfortable about visiting other churches with the hope of meeting a suitable partner so this leaves few other options left open to them.

What are your options?

Firstly, doing nothing isn’t an option. People will tell you that you should just wait for God to bring you someone. Well I would imagine that these same people aren’t telling you that you should do nothing about it if you ever need a new job or car. These things need to be prepared for and worked hard for. God honours active faith not passive. So the something you need to be doing is meeting new people, another word for which is ‘dating’. You’re most probably not going to meet your potential partner at the first date or even the seventh and perhaps not by even the seventeenth. But if you persevere you will give yourself the best chance and allow God to steer you in the right direction. What’s certain is that by doing nothing you will meet no-one!

Join a dedicated Christian dating site

Secondly, since we have access to dedicated Christian dating sites like ChristiansUK.com that aim to help you get in contact with suitable people then this gives a good start to help you begin meeting new people. You can be sure that those on sites like ours are looking to meet people like you.